Our minds are mini computurs that pay more attention to and give more weight to information that confirms our pre-existing beliefs, while dismissing contradictory evidence. This makes our instant narratives that align with our worldview (ie our personal experiences) feel more true. So, when something happens in our lives and our naughty little brain concocts a narrative that isn’t isn’t true, how do we “realize” it and change the narrative? Our jumping to conclusions ends potential relationships, make us feel rejected and unloved, and leads us to isolation or worse, actions that are damaging to ourselves and to the potential present in the situation at hand that may lead us to the best business decision of our lives. Our brains “fill in the gaps” and the hippocampus constructs a “story” that seems cohesive and reality based. Fear, anxiety, and a history of traumatic experiences makes this potential huge. The core alternative process is to pause, identify the negative story, examine the evidence, and replace it with a more balanced, reality-based perspective. We can use heart-brain coherence to stop our busy brains by breathing, holding our hand over our heart, thinking of a positive and loving emotion, being mindful of the calmness settling in, and allow our prefrontal cortex—the logical, reasoning part of our brains to override the emotional biases that create inaccurate interpretations of reality. And, voila!
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